Child’s Personality Type by Helene Goldnadel

Child development experts are still locked in a debate over nature versus nurture. It is the longstanding argument over whether a person’s innate qualities (“nature”) or her personal experiences (“nurture”) carry more importance in determining individual differences in her physical, behavioral, and personality traits.

 

As a parent, you may have often wondered what your child’s personality type is. Although tons of books on parenting and child development have coined many different terms to describe children’s temperaments, they pretty much boil down to these three basic types:

 

The difficult or spirited type finds it difficult to adapt to new situations and often tends to have a negative attitude. If your child easily gets frustrated when things do not go her way, she might belong to this type. For example, if she insists on getting that pricey doll in the baby boutique and you say no, before you know it she will probably start an elaborate public tantrum and not stop until you give in. Some children are just naturally harder to manage than others and a spirited child can still be taught limits and healthy self-expression over time.

 

The slow-to-warm-up or shy type is very cautious when facing new situations and is usually slow to warm up to new people. If your little one finds it difficult to socialize with other children, she might belong to this type. While shyness is not necessarily a “problem,” you can help her break out of her shell. Help her build self-esteem by praising her whenever she tries new things. Pretty soon, she may be happily showing off her massive hair accessories collection to her new friends.

 

The easy type is upbeat and adapts easily to new people and situations. Her response intensity is mild to moderate. An upbeat child can be a joy and a challenge too. Children under this type are usually easygoing, sociable and have positive temperaments and on good days, there’s nothing challenging about that! She loves being with her friends and meeting new ones. And she is usually the type who does not mind sharing her baby gifts with others.

 

Of course, these basic types are far too general to sufficiently describe your wonderful little tot. So here are a few more key characteristics discussed by Helene Goldnadel to help you define your child’s personality type:

 

  • Energy level: Can your child sit quietly long enough to read a book? Or is she in perpetual motion? It is not just her behavior during the day that her energy level affects. It also affects the quantity and quality of her sleep at night, and this can in turn affect her behavior the following day.
  • Adaptability: How does your child adjust to new situations? Does this reaction change over time? For example, she may be uncomfortable going to a new place like school at first, but she may warm up to her surroundings eventually.
  • Intensity: How intense are your child’s emotional reactions? This goes for both positive and negative reactions. For example, if she is prone to tantrums, she is likely to be described as an intense child.
  • Mood: If you could sum up her general attitude in one word, what would it be? Some children tend to be naturally upbeat, while others tend to be melancholy.
  • Attention span: Is your child able to stick with a task without getting distracted? For example, if she cannot do her homework when someone is talking or music is being played, it could be because she has a short attention span.
  • Sensory threshold: How much stimulation does your child require before she responds? For example, some children find even the faintest noise annoying while others are not bothered even with a steady bombardment of TV, radio and computer noise all at once.

 

Also read: Fathers Influence on Their Child’s Development

Helene Goldnadel on Dealing with Child Separation Anxiety

Saying goodbye can be a hard thing for anyone to do, especially a small child. Infants learn at a young age to depend on their caregiver to provide them with everything they need, so what happens when that caregiver leaves? Here Helene Goldnadel is going to talk about child separation anxiety, the causes, and explain how to help a child who is having trouble with separation.

 

Child separation anxiety is defined as distress or agitation resulting from separation or fear of separation from a parent or caregiver to whom a child is attached to. It can start around 7 months of age, peaks at around 18 months, and can continue until around the age of 3. Many parents are familiar with the screaming toddler who will not let them walk out the door, crying and screaming and begging them not to leave. Although this causes many parents stress and guilt, it is just a normal part of child development. This does not mean you are a bad parent. In fact it means the opposite. It means that you and your child have formed a loving bond and attachment that your child values.

 

One day your child is fine with you leaving and the next day it seems like you can not get anything done with out them clinging to your leg, so what causes child separation anxiety? It is thought to develop because as babies mature they start to grow attached to a caregiver or parent and realize they are important to them, but they lack the understanding that things that are not visible still exist. This is called object permanence. The infant believes that when a parent leaves they are gone for good and fear they will not return. This causes them much distress and anxiety (aka child separation anxiety) and results in crying and emotional outbursts.

 

There are many things a parent can do to help a with child separation anxiety. Routine is very important. The child needs to feel safe and know what to expect. Having a predictable routine will help eliminate some anxiety. Your goodbye routine is also important. Let your child know when you are leaving and that you will return. Make sure to be understanding of their fears but also be reassuring. If you show your child that their tears bother you, they will feed off of that and continue to be upset. You may want to have a special way to say your good-byes. I have seen parents that will come to the outside window and wave good-bye. My son and I would say “I Love You” in sign language when I was leaving. Most important, is to give your child time. When they realize they are safe and that you will return, the child separation anxiety will subside along with the tears.

 

When dealing with child separation anxiety it is important to remember that every child is different and will handle things in a different way. Helene Goldnadel is of the views that by understanding what child separation anxiety are and what causes it, you will be able to find ways that will help your child feel comfortable in their environment and cope with their fears and anxieties.

Helene Goldnadel on The Anxious Child

It can be difficult as a parent of an anxious child to know whether the behavior of an anxious child is fairly typical of their age or whether it is sufficiently out of line to border on a disorder.

 

If the child begins to exhibit symptoms of anxiety such as feeling sick before school in the morning, or becomes withdrawn and doesn’t seem to bother with friends, then there may be an anxiety problem. It used to be thought that children didn’t really suffer depression or anxiety in the real sense, but was perhaps just attention seeking or malingering. It is now recognized that children normally have fears and misgivings as they develop and a certain degree of anxiety is to be expected, but, in some cases it can be excessive and interfere with normal daily life.

 

Children can suffer strong emotions and fears that are entirely illogical. The more common fears of being separated from their parent or afraid of the dark usually diminish and fade as the child develops and are not therefore of great concern to the parent.

 

When children reach school age and mix with other children they usually integrate without problem. If a child is unwilling to mix, is excessively shy or timid, has nightmares often, or repeated tummy aches, then this may indicate an excess of anxiety.

 

The teenage years can be particularly fraught as the child comes to terms with the physical changes of adolescence plus the hormonal changes which can often lead to mood swings. For most adolescents the feelings of uncertainty, turmoil and unhappiness that are part of adolescence don’t mean they will go on to experience more serious problems at all. These feelings are gradually put into perspective as maturity develops.

 

The causes of anxiety in a young person can one or more of a number, some of them are discussed below by Helene Goldnadel:

 

  • There may be a genetic or family tendency towards anxiety.
  • There may be some physical illness or disability.
  • There may be family problems. Constant rows between parents or a divorce situation can be extremely distressing for a child and undermine normal feelings of security. The use of excessive threats by parents can also make a child feel unwanted and depressed.
  • There may be problems at school such as bullying or excessive teasing.. The child may have difficulty keeping up with school work or be intimidated by a particular teacher.

 

Severe irrational fears in connection with certain places or activities are called phobias. It is not unusual for teenagers to be shy, but if a fear of talking or eating in public, or being looked at, becomes so strong that the young person cannot face other people at all, then a phobia has developed. Agoraphobia is the fear of being out in the open or in brightly lit public places.

 

Other problems are to do with obsessions or anxious repetitive thoughts that crowd the mind and won’t leave. These can give rise to compulsive rituals in an attempt to expunge them. Common rituals or compulsions are counting or moving in a certain way, or repetitive activities like hand-washing.

 

Eating disorders in young people seem more common than they once were. One of these conditions is Anorexia nervosa which is an abnormal fear of getting fat. A child can starve themselves, or take laxatives, or exercise excessively in order to avoid becoming fat and often end up very thin and under weight. The condition seems to affect girls more than boys.

 

Whatever the cause of anxiety in a child or young person, if it is sufficient to worry you as a parent, then it warrants further attention, and you should seek the advice of your doctor who can then put you in touch with the right sort of therapy.

 

Also read: Turning Around the Behavior of Troubled, Defiant Kids

Helene Goldnadel on the Role of Vitamins in Child Development

Every single bodily function depends on an adequate supply of vitamins and minerals in the bloodstream, including the growth process. Nutrition has a major influence on the quality and speed of cell growth, starting in the uterus and continuing into adulthood. Poor prenatal nutrition will not only retard the growth process, but may also lead to birth defects and other physical abnormalities.

 

The most important group of vitamins in terms of growth and development are the vitamins that make up the Vitamin B complex. The B complex is critical for normal growth in children, as well as many physical and mental bodily functions. One of the vitamins with the B complex, Vitamin B12, is especially important for normal growth in children due to its supply of cobalt. Vitamin B9, also known as folic acid, is probably the most important of the B vitamins while the child is still inside the uterus. Folic acids are known to prevent birth defects and aids in the proper creation of the child’s DNA.

 

In order for a child to grow into a healthy body weight, the thyroid must function properly. The key mineral that aids in thyroid health and development is Zinc. Zinc deficiency is commonly seen in third world countries where diets are usually poor and the crops are grown in poor soil quality which is usually short on Zinc. Because of these factors, the percentage of retarded growth among children is unusually high. Depending on age and weight, children should be consuming between 10 and 15 mg of Zinc every day.

 

Helene Goldnadel states that for a child’s bones to grow and develop into normal size and hardness, the most important vitamins and minerals, calcium, phosphorous, Vitamin D, Vitamin C, Vitamin K, Vitamin A, and magnesium, must all be present in sufficient quantity within the body. These vitamins and minerals all have properties that cause them to work as partners in regards to bone structure and density. Taken individually, they will not be as effective as they are when present as a group. Since the bones are continually losing calcium, sustaining the required levels of this group of vitamins and minerals is critical to proper growth.

 

Anyone with children can tell you that it is not always easy to fit all these nutritional requirements into their daily diet. Kids won’t always eat the healthiest foods, and won’t often eat everything you put in front of them. For this reason, dietary supplements may be an easier and more effective way to ensure that your child will grow properly. However, different children have different dietary needs, so always consult with your family doctor before starting your child on a nutritional supplement program.

 

Also read: Effects Of Poor Parental Care On Child Development

Good Eating Habit For a Child by Helene Goldnadel

A good eating habit for child development is best established early in life. Habits, good or bad, are learned processes that through repetition become involuntary actions. Such as when we were infants and just learning to walk. First we learned to crawl, and then we managed to get on our feet, and the next thing you know we are walking without having to put any thought into the process. We learned to walk through repetition and habit.

The main problem with bad habits is they are hard to break. So the trick is to establish a good eating habit for child nutrition early in life. The easiest way to accomplish this is by setting a good example. When our children are young we have to hand feed them and this is when they start to develop certain tastes for certain foods. They eat what we serve them. If our offerings are balanced nutritious foods such as fruits and vegetables, they will continue to cherish these foods into adulthood. On the other hand, if we ourselves have a bad habit of snacking and eating sweets; chances are so will our children. This is why it is important to establish a good eating habit for child development early in life because food attitudes and eating habits are likely to last a lifetime.

Changing from bad habits to good habits does not happen overnight and either does healthy eating. It takes time, effort, and determination. Unfortunately, bad habits are easy to come by and it can happen at any given time. Eating while doing certain activities can be habit forming. Such as, using the computer or watching a ballgame. Help your child form a good eating habit that will last a lifetime because poor eating habits and sedentary lifestyles could lead to obesity. The following are recommendations by Helene Goldnadel on how to incorporate a good eating habit for child nutritional health.

Be willing to experiment by eating a variety of nutritious foods

Provide three healthy meals a day and create a regular mealtime for the family. Afternoon snacks are fine as long as they are nutritious ( fruit or vegetables) and are not meant to be a meal.

Refrain from eating after dinner. No midnight snacks. And never eat large amounts of food at once.

Know your families serving size and provide just enough to satisfy their needs.

Enjoy your mealtime as a family avoiding confrontation. Unnecessary stress at mealtime can lead to emotional overeating.

Find creative ways of dealing with your childs emotions avoiding food as a solution.

Establish a set location for food consumption in the home. Preferably the dinner table. This will avoid eating in front of the TV, computer, or bedrooms.

Keep only snacks in the home that are high in nutrients and make them readily available. Wash and slice fruits and vegetables and be sure there is easy access to them.

Avoid buying problem foods like doughnuts and cookies. If you do keep them in the pantry out of sight. Never use food as a reward for good behavior.

Some children eat out of sheer boredom or because they were enticed by the food advertisement on TV. Teach them to eat only when they are truly hungry and remind them that a snack is not a meal. In other words, eating a full bag of carrots is not necessary. But it is much healthier than a full bag of chips.

Being creative and offering a variety of nutritional choices will ensure a good eating habit for child development that the whole family can benefit from.