How to Nurture Your Child’s Potential? Helene Goldnadel Explains

When a child is born, we have great hopes and expectations for them to become the best them they can be. Every parent wonders what can be done for their child to reach their full potential.

 

Here are a few tips by Helene Goldnadel to help you along the way of having your child flourish and develop his talents.

 

1) Don’t stress out…

Placing too much of a focus on the development of your child, will only detain them. Even from very young, children sense when their parents are anxious and this works counter-productive.

 

2) Let your children lead the way.

Follow their interests, let them show you what they want to learn and help them only if they so desire.

 

3) Strew!

Strewing is a term often used in unschooling, it means casually leaving things linger around your child for him to pick up or discard. Now we’re not only talking books here. Any variety of things can spark an interest in your child: fruits, beads, toys, games… While your child still chooses what sparks his interest, you may still point out things that you find worthwhile.

 

4) Don’t place too much focus on linguistic and mathematical intelligence…

Even though these are the most valued skills in our society, there are at least 7 forms of intelligence, so that leaves 5 others your child can be accomplished in.

 

5) Games and toys

are a great way for your child to learn and develop himself. Pick the right toys and games and join in every once in a while.

 

6) Fun

Fun is by far the most important factor in achieving anything for your child. If they are not enjoying themselves, they will not benefit from the experience.

 

7) Explore the world, go outside, travel.

There are so many things to learn, see, feel, touch, it would be a pity to pass on all those marvels. Travel leaves few people untouched. The excitement of new surroundings, meeting new people, the clash of cultures…

 

8) Craft and art supplies

These are great things to have lying around. Invest in a wide variety of paints, coloring material, beads, rope, etc… and leave them at your child’s disposal.

 

9) Books.

Even though books should not be your primary focus in sparking interests in your child, they are a great secondary tool. Access to a good library (or establishing a varied collection in your home) is a nice idea if your child needs to do additional research, or if they are just looking for a good read.

 

10) Computers and the internet

Both can be used in a variety of skill building. As social networks, as recreational or research tool. You can choose to be present if they go online, or not.

 

11) Be a role model.

A parent who is open and interested in the world will most likely raise an interested child.

 

Also read: Helene Goldnadel on Instilling a Habit of Reading in Your Child

Helene Goldnadel on Autistic Behavior Child

Autism can be detected in children by age 3, and sometimes as early as 18 months. Autistic behaviors vary in type and severity in each child-psychiatrists will place children diagnosed with autism on the autistic disorder spectrum. The spectrum runs from low-functioning autism, characterized by severe delays in communication development, to higher-functioning autism, like children diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome. These children don’t exhibit the same kind delay in communication development; in fact, their communication level may exceed that of their peers. Children diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome are often extremely verbal, but they lack even the most basic of social skills. Every child who displays autistic behavior and is diagnosed with autism will be placed somewhere on the autistic disorder spectrum.

 

One of the problems with diagnosing autism is that many of the hallmark behaviors are abstract, not concrete. According to the World Health Organization, “children with autism are marked by delays in their social interaction, language as used in social communication, or symbolic or imaginative play.” Essentially, parents are asked to evaluate their young child’s language and social skills in relation to their child’s peers. Usually, parents will begin to suspect that something is amiss before their children enter the traditional school system, and many public school districts now offer Early Intervention classes to help identify the strengths of each autistic child, and parents and educational professionals decide together how to proceed with the autistic child’s education.

 

Because autistic children show little regard for the world around them, it probably won’t come as a surprise to learn that the word “autistic” comes from the Greek word autos, or “self.” All of the behaviors associated with autism are characterized by a different perception of “self” and the surrounding world. Many autistic children react strongly, even violently, to outside stimuli such as lights, sound, and touch. The degree to which the child is affected (or not affected) varies greatly from one child to another.

 

Autistic behavior in children is sometimes hard to detect as many autistic children are developing “normally” until they suffer a sudden regression. Some typical autism behaviors are simply a normal delay in a particular area of development, which is why it’s vital to be as informed and educated about autism as possible. However, developmental delays added with some other standard autistic child behavior can be an early indicator of autism.

 

Autistic children struggle with non-verbal communication. Tone of voice, body language, and gestures are often misunderstood or not understood at all. Autistic children often avoid eye contact and playing with other children. Finally, obsessive repetitive behavior patterns and strict adherence to a routine are other indicators of autism in children. These children may have intense, violent reactions when asked to deviate from their routines or try something different.

 

If you think your child is displaying some autistic behaviors, you are not alone. Recent statistics suggest that 1 in 300 children are born with autism; boys far outnumbering girls. Your family physician or other trusted medical professional can refer you to a reputable child psychiatrist for an initial appointment, observation, or testing. When autism is diagnosed early, extensive therapy and other treatments can greatly improve your autistic child’s quality of life.

 

Also read: Tips by Helene Goldnadel to Encourage Language Development

How to Treat Impulsive Behaviors in Your Child?

It’s never easy parenting an impulsive child. No matter how you love him or her, the endless frustration of coping with erratic and ill-considered actions is always with you. Where another child might stop and think before trying to climb a bookshelf…your child climbs now, thinks later. Dropping a full glass on the floor just to see what happens? A child with poor impulse control will barely hesitate, and will not be prepared for accepting the consequences.

 

But treating impulsive behaviors is a challenge. Too many doctors and educators have been falling back on the “easy” option of using strong prescription medications. Prescription medications can’t teach a child good judgment, and they can interfere with his or her ability to learn to read and stunt growth and development.

 

When you’re parenting an impulsive child the question is, “Which is more important: controlling the behaviors now, or helping the child learn how to control his behavior now and in the future?”

 

Don’t despair because there are options. Many people parenting an impulsive child choose to rough it out and avoid prescription medications entirely, relying on good home teaching and supervision, behavior therapy, and natural alternative medication. Others choose to work with their doctors to design personal programs based on a similar combination of non-prescription approaches with a prescription element added at a much lower level.

 

Then there are those who find that treating impulsive behaviors in a particular child will still demand prescription medications at a higher level, but the side effects can be reduced by using natural alternative medications.

 

You are the one parenting an impulsive child. You are the one close enough to know the costs and benefits of treating impulsive behaviors with harsh medications that on some levels may make your child worse. Therefore you must be part of the decision making team. Take time to learn about all the options.

 

Behavior therapy with a strong follow-through of in-home discipline and environment control is a great place for almost any impulsive child to start. Instead of simply flattening the impulsive response, they teach a child to recognize it, stop, and think things through before acting. The skills developed will serve your child forever.

 

Similarly, homeopathic medications like Hyoscyamus, Arsen Iod, Verta Alb and Tuberculinum offered in low solutions calm the brain and increase your child’s ability to focus and make good decisions. Where prescription medications are the “elephant gun” approach to stopping impulsivity, homeopathic solutions and formulas are a gentle, but more effective solution for treating impulsive behaviors.

 

Parenting an impulsive child isn’t ever going to be simple or easy. Making the right choices will make a huge difference in your child’s life, now and in the future, though. Take the time to look into the various alternatives open to you. By combining treatments with the knowledge and guidance of your doctor you can come up with the best possible program for you and your child.

 

Also read: Preventing Hereditary Child Food Allergies

Helene Goldnadel on the Development of an Angry Child

Anger is a reaction that all humans feel and express. It’s part of the “fight or flight” reaction that makes us act when we encounter danger. It’s an important tool that we use to make certain our urgent needs are met.

 

So, what tics you off? It seems pretty easy to assume that the things that bother us as adults are legitimate. If we are stopped by too many traffic lights on our way to an important meeting, we get “miffed”. If the newly hired boss’ nephew gets your well-deserved promotion you were expecting, you get “hot”. When your child purposefully throws his plateful of spaghetti against your white drapes, you’re pretty likely to get steamed!

 

Kids have urgent needs, too. The needs may not seem as big or as easy to identify as those that anger adults – but if you watch a kid get angry, you can bet that to him/her the urgent need was pretty darned important.

 

Below are three primary reasons that kids get angry according to Helene Goldnadel:

 

**About Unmet Needs. Children are born totally helpless and dependent upon us to attend to their every need: food, warmth, attention, comfort. If an infant gets hungry, he cries to alert us to handle it! At about 6 weeks-old, babies learn to smile to get the attention they need – and it works because no parent can resist this endearing socialization tactic. As they grow and mature, their abilities to take care of their own needs become more elaborate, but you’ll still get complaints when their inexperience prevents them from full satisfaction.

 

At first kids seem to try simple notification with a cry or a yell. But when the problem is not handled or eliminated, just watch the rage erupt. To an immature developing person, this may seem the ONLY way to get an adult to intervene. And, it works pretty darned well!!!

 

**About Frustration. The simplicity of infancy behind them, children eventually develop more complex social, emotional and intellectual needs. When the kid tries to build a tower with blocks and it keeps falling down, he is likely to get frustrated. When the child tries to get another child to get out of her way, she’s likely to get frustrated and angry. When the child’s older brother has permission to climb higher on the jungle-gym than Mom allows the younger brother to do, he’s likely to get really angry – at Mom.

 

Frustration is a normal part of life. We don’t always get everything we want in the exact way we want it! When frustration is repeatedly a part of a child’s experience, he/she could get discouraged and begin to expect that things won’t work out – then watch out! Children who do not receive encouragement from their parents are likely to simmer in their frustration. And, those who do not learn how to handle their frustration are likely to develop a short-fuse toward anger outbursts.

 

**About “Useful” Anger. Unlike reactive anger, functional anger is a learned behavior. Some children learn that anger works great to manipulate the people around them. A well-staged temper-tantrum can demand full attention, embarrass parents, or force any issue. A child that uses anger is going to have a difficulty learning new social behaviors to get his/her needs met – because anger works so profoundly.

 

No matter what stimulates the anger, a frequently “angry” child needs help. This child needs guidance to discover effective ways to get his needs met; or he/she needs help learning how to deal with frustration; or he/she needs to learn a wider range of behaviors to effectively relate to people. Understanding the development of angry children is an important first step toward creating a parenting plan to help them modify their anger responses or behaviors.

 

Every kid is unique. Every parent-child relationship is unique. No advice for ANY parent-child situation is going to work for EVERY family. However, the key to successful parenting KNOW why your children do what they do or how their behavior serves them. And when the goin’-gets-rough, go-‘n’-get more information

 

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Connecting Just Enough with Your Child

Getting involved with what your child does, but not overdoing it, enhances your child’s total development. Studies show that children whose parents are involved in their work generally excel in what they do in school, in their hobbies, and other extracurricular activities. These children tend to have more self-confidence or higher levels of self-esteem.

Be wary, however, of overdoing parent involvement in your child’s school activities. Your child may fall into a trap of being too dependent on you. Children need privacy, freedom and space so that they can develop their own talents, skills and abilities. Doing things for what your child needs to do will not hasten his learning process. Instead, you will slow that process down. It does not matter if they are making mistakes or not doing enough when doing their work, what is important is he gets to learn by experience. He will be deprived of this opportunity if you keep on doing things for him.

Allowing your child to learn by himself is not easy for parents. We are too eager to help our child succeed, and come to their aid when they fail. Remember, your primary task is to guide and encourage your child in his school and other activities. By all means, reward him with praises for his successes, big or small. But learn when to step in and when to let your child be. Develop his creative nature by encouraging him various ways of doing things or approaching problems. Doing things differently does not necessarily make it wrong or inferior to what we consider to be standard practice. In fact it can create opportunities for learning not only for the child but for you, too.

Also keep some distance when it comes to your child’s social life. Be around when you feel your child needs you. But when he says he needs time to figure out his problems himself, grant him that need. Just assure him of your guiding presence whenever your child invokes his need for your help. At his age of restlessness and discovery, he needs to go through learning processes by himself, with some help from his parents.

 

Also read: Effective Child Discipline Tips by Helene Goldnadel

Self-Esteem is a Key Factor in Child Personality Development

There are two sides of a coin in the issue about self-esteem development in children. One side tells us that self-esteem in children is about having this yearning to develop a sense of self-worth. The other part claims that self-esteem is not a cause but rather an end-result of developing confidence in children. This sort of Catch-22 points to one common thing though: parental involvement is essential to help kids form accurate, healthy self-perceptions.

 

You may ask bluntly, “Where does self-esteem come from and how can I use it to my child’s advantage?” Well, the answer is apparently less obvious than the definitions of self-esteem itself. First off, self-esteem comes from doing things that are a challenge or difficult for us, in overcoming problems that are generally hard for others within our peer group.

 

The problem with children though is that they often avoid challenges in the first place instead of taking them head on. Why? Because they don’t want to develop feelings of inadequacy. Inadequacy which they know can come from experiencing failure in doing those challenges. So what happens is that they don’t develop self-esteem.

 

Parent’s often psyche themselves into thinking that if they praise their children more or encourage them often, the child’s self-confidence would boost up. But that isn’t the case. The real problem is not helping the child learn how to handle the problem in the first place.

 

The concept of success following persistence starts early in life and as kids try and fail over and over again, until they finally succeed in accomplishing a certain task or goal, they develop ideas about their own capabilities. At the same time, they’re creating self-concepts based on interactions with other people. This is why parental involvement is essential to helping kids form accurate, healthy self-perceptions.

 

Helene Goldnadel believes that self-esteem plays a key role in the development of a child’s behavior. In a broad sense, self-esteem can be considered as a deciding factor for whether a child turns out to be a problem or not. And parents are advised to become involved in this stage of personality development in their child as much as they can.

 

Also read: Helene Goldnadel on Preparing Your Child Cognitively to Read

Bring Out the Genius within Your Child

If you have 2 equally well-formed plant seedlings and you put one in a nutrient-rich solution and another in a nutrient-poor solution, what would happen? A biologist who did this experiment found that the seedling grown in a nutrient-rich environment grew tall and bloom very well while the other grown in nutrient-poor environment had stunted growth. Environment, not the biological inheritance of these seedlings has determined their actual growth and success in each case.

 

Similarly, if you child has a nutrient-rich environment, he can excel and blossom with his natural talents and gifts. For example, Mozart’s father was an established court violinist and musician in Salzburg, Austria. He taught his son to play the harpsichord, violin and music when Mozart was a young child. The young Mozart achieved fame very soon. His father was able to introduce him to circles of influential people, using his position as a court musician in Salzburg. Age was not seen as a barrier to Mozart being able to learn and develop complex musical technique. When the young Mozart showed his interest in music above all other things, his parents encouraged him and supported him.

 

As a young child, Leonardo da Vinci’s parents supported him in his enthusiasm to explore very wide-ranging interests including mathematics, science, music and art. In his early teens, da Vinci became an apprentice at the studio of an established and respected artist of the day, Andrea del Verrocchio. During his time at del Verrocchio’s studio, da Vinci developed his artistic skills. At the same time, however, he was still able to carry on his talent for scientific inventions, using his artistic ability to depict his revolutionary ideas with real visual detail and clarity.

 

However, Einstein’s early years were more in line with today’s conventional educational experience. From being a baby, his family supported him greatly in developing his gifts and talents. He started his school career with primary school and ended it in higher education. Contrary to popular myth, Einstein was not a man obsessed with science, his interests both in his childhood and later life were always more diverse than that. In his youth, he explored religious thought and ethics, and took up the violin when he was 12 – something which he continued throughout his life. His parents allowed him to take his entrance examinations to higher education at the age of 16, two years younger than would be the norm.

 

In the economic sense, neither the family of Mozart, da Vinci nor Einstein were especially wealthy. So what do all three childhoods of these geniuses have in common?

 

The foundations of genius

 

  • Parents who believed in their abilities as children and supported them
  • Individual abilities in various fields
  • Opportunities to develop their own individual gifts and talents
  • No sense of any limits being set on their abilities
  • Focus on the ability of the individual
  • Discovery, recognition and appreciation of their abilities by others.

 

In the age of computers in our modern day, we can use home based child education programs for children development to teach your baby reading or baby math. Yes, your baby can start reading early with the right method and attitude. You can teach your baby reading or math, without the stress and it can be fun.

 

Helene Goldnadel is of the view that with proper guidance in their early years, any child can develop their gifts and talents. It is up to us as parents to guide them along their way. With a well thought out home based program, you can develop the true potential in your child to realize their own genius within.